When online communities ask, "What is the craziest thing a guy has tried to mansplain to you?" the answers are often baffling, hilarious, and downright frustrating. Mansplaining—a portmanteau of "man" and "explaining"—refers to the act of a man explaining something to a woman in a condescending, overconfident, and often inaccurate way, usually regarding a topic she knows more about than he does.
While the term is sometimes overused, there is a specific subset of these interactions that defies logic. These are the moments where the confidence gap widens into a chasm, leaving the recipient speechless. Below is a compilation of the most absurd examples of this phenomenon, alongside practical advice on how to handle them when they occur.
The Most Absurd Examples of Mansplaining
To understand the scope of the issue, it helps to look at specific categories where these interactions tend to happen. From professional expertise to lived experiences, no topic seems off-limits.
Explaining a Woman’s Own Profession to Her
Perhaps the most common category involves a man explaining a woman's job to her. This happens frequently in male-dominated fields like tech, engineering, and medicine.
For example, a female software engineer with a decade of experience might be approached by a junior male employee who wants to explain the concept of "coding" or a specific programming language she helped pioneer. There are documented instances of male interns explaining medical procedures to female surgeons or explaining the law to female partners at law firms.
In these scenarios, the mansplainer assumes that because the woman is present and quiet—which could simply mean she is listening or thinking—she must lack knowledge. The presumption is that his authority is default, while hers must be proven.
Explaining Female Biology
Perhaps the most perplexing category involves men attempting to explain menstruation, pregnancy, or menopause to women. These are biological processes that the women involved experience firsthand, yet some men feel compelled to lecture them on the mechanics.
There are viral stories of men explaining how tampons work to women who have used them for years, or arguing about the severity of period cramps compared to a kick in the groin. In one famous instance, a man attempted to explain to a mother of three how pregnancy actually works, insisting that her experiences were anecdotal and not scientifically accurate.
Explaining a Woman’s Own Culture or Hobby
Confidence often outstrips competence when men step into arenas traditionally associated with women or specific cultures they are not part of.
- The Foodie Expert: A man explaining the "correct" way to cook a specific ethnic dish to a woman who grew up eating and cooking it in her home country.
- The Book Author: A man explaining the themes of a book to the woman who actually wrote it.
- The Gamer: A man explaining the controls or lore of a video game to a woman who is a professional esports player or a speedrunner of that specific title.
Explaining Inanimate Objects and Basic Concepts
Sometimes, the mansplaining is so basic it becomes comical. Women have reported men explaining how to use a washing machine, how to pump gas, or how to hold a hammer. These interactions carry an undercurrent of benevolent sexism, assuming that women are incapable of handling everyday tasks without male guidance.
How to Handle Weirdest Mansplaining Attempts
Hearing a condescending explanation of something you mastered years ago is infuriating. It can cause a "freeze" response where you are too stunned to react. However, having a plan in place can help you navigate these awkward social moments with confidence and grace.
Step 1: Assess the Intent
Before reacting, take a split second to evaluate the situation. Is this person simply socially awkward and trying to make conversation by sharing information? Or is there a tone of condescension and a presumption of your ignorance?
If the intent seems benign—perhaps an elderly neighbor explaining how to sort recycling—it is often kinder to let it slide to preserve the relationship. However, if the intent is to assert dominance or belittle your intelligence, you may choose to address it.
Step 2: The "Play Dumb" Technique
One of the most effective ways to handle a mansplainer is to ask questions. This forces them to explain their logic, which often unravels quickly when they realize they don't actually know what they are talking about.
Ask open-ended questions like:
- "That’s an interesting perspective. Where did you read that?"
- "I’ve actually studied this for years; can you explain the specific study you’re referencing?"
- "Why do you think that is?"
By acting curious rather than angry, you put the burden of proof on them. If they are bluffing, they will often backtrack or get flustered.
Step 3: The Gentle Credential Drop
Sometimes, a direct but polite correction is necessary. You don't need to be rude to shut down a bad explanation. You can simply state your experience as a matter of fact.
"Actually, I’m a pediatrician, so I’m familiar with how fevers work in toddlers."
"I appreciate the input, but I wrote the code for this feature, so I know why the bug exists."
Delivered with a smile, this statement is a "kill them with kindness" maneuver. It highlights the absurdity of the situation without creating a hostile environment. It makes it clear that the power dynamic they assumed is inverted.
Step 4: The "Thanks, I Wrote the Book" Shutdown
For the more persistent or aggressive mansplainers, humor or directness is required. If someone is explaining your own book, your job, or your life to you, you can use a humorous one-liner to end the conversation.
- "That’s a great explanation of the concept I invented."
- "I’ll definitely keep that in mind the next time I’m performing surgery on myself."
- "You should write a Wikipedia article about this; oh wait, I already did."
Why Does This Happen?
Understanding the root cause can help you take these interactions less personally. Psychology suggests that this behavior is often driven by a combination of social conditioning and the "confidence gap."
Research shows that men are often socialized to speak with authority and to view their knowledge as objective truth. Women, conversely, are often socialized to be collaborative and to qualify their statements (e.g., "I think," "Maybe"). When a man encounters a woman who is simply listening, he may interpret her silence as a lack of understanding rather than common courtesy.
Furthermore, the "Dunning-Kruger effect"—a cognitive bias where people with low ability at a task overestimate their ability—is at play. The mansplainer usually knows just enough about a topic to think he is an expert, but not enough to realize he is speaking to a true expert.
Tips for Moving Forward
While it is satisfying to have a perfect comeback, the reality is that you cannot educate every mansplainer you meet. It is emotionally exhausting to constantly defend your expertise.
- Pick your battles: If it’s a stranger at a party, let it go. If it’s a colleague undermining you at work, address it professionally with a credential drop.
- Support other women: If you see a man interrupting or explaining something to another woman, step in. "I think Jen has this covered, she’s the lead architect on the project."
- Trust your knowledge: Remember that their confidence is performative. Just because they say it loudly doesn't mean it's true.
The "crazy" stories of men explaining periods to mothers or code to developers are funny in retrospect, but they highlight a real disconnect in communication. By recognizing these patterns and knowing how to respond, you can reclaim the conversation and your own authority.